Nurture your relationship with the way you communicate (Part 1 of 3)

Hi everyone, I'm back! Thanks for your patience. I promised you in my last post that I'm going to talk about how you and your partner can nurture your relationship with the way you communicate with one another. So let's get to it!

No matter how different we are from one another, or how different we are in the way we choose to deal with life, we all share one common goal—we want to be happy! Think about it...everything we think, say or do is ultimately to experience some form of happiness—bliss, contentment, joy, pleasure, satisfaction. In a relationship, you and your partner probably want to feel the kind of happiness that love and respect can bring. Some of you may know just how to maintain happiness in a relationship, however, I know there are a majority of you who are having a very difficult time with this. Let's look into what we can do right now to change things around for you!

It's not uncommon for a relationship to fail due to lack of communication or ineffective communication. Communicating kindly to each other in good times and in bad, is a significant aspect in a relationship that can literally make or break the relationship. One of the keys to a happy relationship is communication—not the kind that seems obvious to most of you, but the kind that nurtures your love for one another and shows your respect for each other. The kind of communication I'm referring to requires you to do what could be considered difficult for most people. It has to do with open, honest communication. But the key here is to do it without pride and ego; to consistently communicate kindly with your partner—not only in good times, but in bad.

Let's face it, it's much easier to speak nicely when you're happy or comfortable. It's easier to be kind and understanding when things are going your way. But the question is: How do you communicate with your partner when times are rough, when there are obstacles to overcome, and things aren't going your way? Do you remain respectful, kind, understanding and open, or do you lose all composure, get defensive, let pride and ego get in the way and fight to be right? You see, what ultimately defines you or your relationship is not only how you communicate at times of comfort and convenience, but also how you communicate at times of challenge and controversy.

It's a whole other topic if you feel you're with the wrong partner and you want to get out of the relationship. However, if you're with someone whom you want to maintain a happy relationship with, you must communicate openly without pride and ego in the equation. Dropping your pride and ego for each other while communicating can be the best thing you can do for yourself and your relationship. Think about how you like to be spoken to, and speak to your partner in that manner.

With pride and ego out of the way, you'll have more energy to focus on kind thoughts, and form your sentences to reflect the love you feel. How you use your words can set the tone of the conversation, which can lead the conversation in a positive or a negative direction. So it's so important to be conscientious of the words you choose and how you form those words together. You don't need to sound perfect—good grammar doesn't count when it comes to love. Just speak from your heart, and what you truly want to say will flow.

I do apologize as I realize this post is getting a bit long. Let's take a break. I'll continue this tomorrow. Meanwhile, take some time to process what's been shared here today. On my next post, I'll create a situation to show you the difference between a healthy, nurturing conversation, and one that is not so. Stay tuned for "Part 2"... :)