Making a change to better your relationship works best when you’re consistent!

When you make a change to do better for your relationship—whether you’re aiming to be more supportive or nurturing, romantic, affectionate, or giving—you can’t expect to get the results you’re after if you are not consistent. In other words, you can’t just put in the effort for a little while and then stop and expect it to work itself out without you. Consistency is key!

To succeed in anything, one of the major qualities to adopt is consistency. So in relationships, don’t only be supportive, nurturing, romantic, affectionate or giving every now and then, or maybe only when you’re in trouble with your partner. That’s just not going to cut it if you want to sustain a happy, healthy relationship. Be consistent!

It’s like going to the gym. You can go hard for a few months and get a body that makes you happy. But guess what happens when you stop going regularly? Do you think what you worked so hard to achieve would stay in place for the years to come?

So, do your relationship a favor and be consistent with your loving, respectful ways. When was the last time you sent her flowers?—Even if it was a single stem? When was the last time you called him at work in the middle of the day to tell him you have a surprise for him when he gets home? When was the last time you said I love you for no reason at all? Or spent minutes nurturing each other after a tough day, saying “everything will be okay, come here, let me give you a hug”?

I know some of you use to do this in the beginning, but for whatever reason, you haven’t been consistent or you just stopped doing it all together. Why stop now? Has it been serving your relationship well? Or have you just learned to be comfortable with dissatisfaction? You may have excuses that are legitimate, but if you want to keep a healthy, happy relationship with your partner, those excuses will have to go. Something has got to give. So you choose: A happy relationship? Or a set of excuses?

You know how good it can feel when your partner is consistent with their loving, respectful ways with you. So you can probably imagine how great they would feel if you did the same. And for those of you who are saying: “Why should I do this if they’re not doing it first?” Well, my friends, read my last post below and hopefully it will help you understand. Change can only begin with you. You can’t expect change to happen if you don’t first initiate change within you. Take the lead and see for yourself what follows…