When you truly respect someone, you don’t lie to them, cheat on them, demean them, steal from them, speak badly about them, try to control them, invade their privacy, ignore what’s important to them, or want anything less for them than their most glorious dreams.
At the heart of every successful relationship —business or personal — lies respect. The truth also lies at the opposite end – that the heart of every doomed relationship lies disrespect.
If you’re in a relationship in which you either don’t respect the other person or aren’t respected by the other person, I assure you this is a relationship you have to learn from and leave – it’s that simple. And the sooner the better, too, since I’m a big believer that the longer you postpone the inevitable, the more time in this life you will waste.
The more you think about it the more you’ll realize that without respect, all those other important ingredients of a good relationship such as love and trust don’t mean much, or they can’t exist at all. The great thing about respect is that when it exists in its deepest and most honest form, it eliminates a lot of the destructive behavior that can tear apart a relationship and the people in it.
If you happen to be in an
intimate relationship in which you’re being chronically disrespected, please don’t fall into the trap of believing that if you hang around long enough, put up with any and all disrespect from your partner, it will somehow prove to your partner how much you care, and then someday, the depth of your love finally realized, you’ll earn the respect you’ve been longing for. Sadly, that’s not usually the outcome, for a simple, logical reason: You never earn respect by tolerating disrespect.
At the heart of every successful relationship —business or personal — lies respect. The truth also lies at the opposite end – that the heart of every doomed relationship lies disrespect.
If you’re in a relationship in which you either don’t respect the other person or aren’t respected by the other person, I assure you this is a relationship you have to learn from and leave – it’s that simple. And the sooner the better, too, since I’m a big believer that the longer you postpone the inevitable, the more time in this life you will waste.
The more you think about it the more you’ll realize that without respect, all those other important ingredients of a good relationship such as love and trust don’t mean much, or they can’t exist at all. The great thing about respect is that when it exists in its deepest and most honest form, it eliminates a lot of the destructive behavior that can tear apart a relationship and the people in it.
If you happen to be in an
intimate relationship in which you’re being chronically disrespected, please don’t fall into the trap of believing that if you hang around long enough, put up with any and all disrespect from your partner, it will somehow prove to your partner how much you care, and then someday, the depth of your love finally realized, you’ll earn the respect you’ve been longing for. Sadly, that’s not usually the outcome, for a simple, logical reason: You never earn respect by tolerating disrespect.(To be continued on the next post: Part 2 of 2. Stay tuned! :)
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