Timing plays a huge part in finding the love of your life: The proof is all around you

It’s not difficult to find a partner if being in love is not that important to you, or if being highly compatible with your partner isn’t a huge criteria for you. But if this is all too important, then you’re not just looking for a partner, you’re looking for the love of your life.

Timing plays a huge part in this. But first, you must understand that timing does not only mean being at the right place at the right time, it also means “you” have to be “ready.”

To be ready is not only about being available and open, or telling yourself and others that you’re ready and looking. That’s not enough. If you want to attract the best partner for you, you have to be your best, too.

So saying you’re ready must also mean you’ve taken the time to work on your Self – mentally, emotionally, physically, even spiritually – so you’ll not only recognize the love of your life when he or she comes along, but you’ll be “ready” to treat them the way you want to be treated.

I’m sure you know of couples that are now happily together, however at one point, they might have had to completely break up and remain friends or simply go their separate ways. The timing was off. They were at different “places” in their lives – in their personal growth.

Maybe one partner was more developed than the other when it came to being in relationships. Perhaps the other wasn’t emotionally mature enough to handle and appreciate what a real relationship has to offer. Maybe they weren’t clear on what they wanted, or didn’t communicate honestly. Perhaps, they weren’t mentally or emotionally ready for each other even though they said they were “ready” to be in love. Whatever the case, the relationship ended.

But it wasn’t until they parted ways, furthered their personal growth, experienced other relationships, only could they then come together again to see each other in a different light, a better light; and to now know how to fully appreciate one another. So though they may not have been perfect for each other at one point, they are perfect for each other now.

There’s proof of timing at work all around us. I’ll use my friends as examples.

When Ann met Alex, she adored him. And he? Well, let’s just say he knew there was something truly special about her that he had never experienced before in any relationship.

Though they bonded and the feelings were strong, there were still a lot of strains in the relationship. One of the big reasons being Ann wasn’t quite ready. Emotionally she was still somewhat attached to her last long-term relationship. She felt she should give it one more really good shot with her ex because after all, they did share a long history together.

So Ann and Alex parted ways. During that time, Alex couldn’t love anyone the way he loved Ann. And Ann, well, everyday being back in her old relationship only forced her to grow spiritually, and therefore gain clarity, to a point where she realized how wonderful Alex really was. And how much she truly missed him.

Maybe she wasn’t ready for someone as wonderful as Alex a few years back, but now, it hit her – Alex had shown her what true love was. But she didn’t recognize it at the time, so she couldn’t fully appreciate it.

It was in going back to her old relationship that helped her recognize this. She was now “ready” to fully appreciate what Alex had to offer. But was it too late?

Well, let’s just say it could have been too late if this had happened at a time when Alex were a few years younger. You see, few years back, he wasn’t as emotionally mature. He might have let pride stand in the way. Why should he come running back just because she’s ready? After all, she did hurt him by leaving.

But Alex was a different man now. He was much more experienced in relationships. He was “ready” to fall in love and allowed his heart to lead the way. Due to all that they had learned during their time apart, they were both now ready, so getting back together just felt right. They’ve since been together for over seven years and are happily married with a child.

I also know another couple that broke up and went their separate ways for a year before he realized that he had made a terrible mistake and wanted to be with her again. It took her a little while to accept this and he understood. So he proofed he was “ready” through his consistent show of appreciation for her everyday. They’ve since been together for over fourteen years and are happily married with three children.

So here’s my point: Though timing may play a big part in when the both of you come together, however, if you haven’t yet improve yourself for a relationship, you’re going to find this out pretty quick when you're in the relationship.

If you say you’re “ready,” you’re then saying you’ve spent time working on your Self – learned to do the things that make a relationship work.

So unless you've done that, saying you're ready is quite different from being ready. Focus on self-development. Read books, read this blog ☺, spend time on self-reflection, get clear on what you want, write it down, learn as much as you can to improve your Self. And when you meet that special someone, apply everything you’ve learned, practice nurturing your partner, work things out kindly, speak lovingly, share affectionately, communicate honestly, listen openly.

Most importantly, take that risk. Love with all your heart and appreciate your partner without worrying too much about what is in return for you. Let life take care of that part. Because the truth about timing is this: When you keep improving in relationships and your partner can’t step up to reciprocate or fully appreciate you, the relationship will inevitably come to an end. And when the time is right, a better partner for you will come your way. And that new partner might just be the partner you were “growing” for all along.

It’s a fact: You get in life what you put into it. So put in your best, if you want the best!

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