The nature of life and relationships: What it means to go with the flow

There are things in life that you cannot change – they are simply the nature of the way things are and they will remain the way they are no matter how hard you try to change them.

The sooner you understand and accept the nature of these things, the healthier and more peaceful your life will be; you would know when to let go so that things can flow for you. You won’t feel the need to force others to conform to what you perceive as “right.”

Allow me to elaborate.

There are definite “Laws” that exist in this Universe. If you do not understand and accept these Laws with a peaceful attitude, it is like being a bad sport playing a game at which you do not understand and accept the rules. In other words, you will be in it only to lose.

The Laws of this Universe is constant and absolute: gravity is meant to keep us on the ground; the earth is meant to spin; the sun is meant to shine, just as surely as dogs are meant to bark; babies are meant to wail; and people are meant to have differences that set them apart from one another.

There’s nothing you can do to change the nature of these things.

Some people you will get along with, and some, you’re not meant to get along with; instead, you’re meant to learn from them, and then move along. This is just the natural flow of life. It is not right, wrong, good or bad. It is just the way it is.

If you constantly feel the need to label things as right, wrong, good or bad, you’re not allowing “nature” to take its course. With this, you may feel annoyed wondering why things are the way they are; you may have a tough time accepting these things as they are “meant to be,” therefore, you may find it difficult to go with “the flow of life.”

As a result of this, you could be sabotaging your own peace of mind and not even know it. Furthermore, you may often find yourself disappointed, even though you may put on a different show on the exterior.

Often we try so hard to go against the nature of certain people in our lives. Instead of simply sharing with them what would work for us and why, we force to change them to do things our way. We want to feel that we’re right and that they’re wrong.

Many of you have arrived at collective preferences about how life should be lived; and while you have come nowhere close to an agreement about what the appropriate way to live is, still, on the countless subjects that you are experiencing, you continue to try to convince others to accept the preferences that you most prefer.

And even then, here’s the thing: so what if you think you’re “right”?

No matter how right you think you are, if the nature of the person you’re dealing with is marching to the beat of a different drum, they cannot hear you. This person could be a friend, parent, partner or even co-worker. You would only be counterproductive fighting against this person’s nature, forcing them to do or see things your way.

You cannot win with force. And if you do, it will only be short-lived, or disappointing in the long-term. Why? Because “nature” in itself is a force to be reckoned with, so fighting the “nature” of a person or thing will only proof to tire you out because you’re going against that which is meant to be – that which is the flow of life.

Fighting the nature of any person is like telling the birds to stop flying, or the wind to stop blowing. It won’t happen. It can’t because it is in their nature to exist this way in this moment in time.

Maybe things could change one day. When and if they do, you can shift gears accordingly. But for now, they are the way they are, and so you must accept them for what they are, and flow with how it is.

So it is in your best interest to understand and accept the nature of certain people as they are. With this deep understanding and acceptance comes a peace of mind that will allow you to let go of fighting against the nature of people’s character. This alone would release the burden blocking the flow in your life.

It is the nature of life that in your lifetime, you will meet or even fall in love with people whose nature may not bring out the best in you, but this does not mean you can’t say anything.

You can say everything you need to say and share everything you feel, however, if you want to flow with the intelligence of life, you must do this without fighting and forcing. If you want a healthy outcome for your Self, you must share with honesty and tact.

You must speak up with positive intentions for the greater good. This means you share with an attitude filled with deep acceptance for whatever the outcome. How do you do this? Listen well, speak your truth, say your peace, and know when to move along to the next best thing you can do in a given moment…

…Choose to expect nothing, yet be prepared for anything. In “being” this way, you would be aligning yourself with the natural intelligence of life and things will slowly begin to shift in your favor. You will know you are in alignment with this higher intelligence when no matter what the outcome, you sense a feeling of calm in your heart.

Allow others to be as they wish to be. If they choose to march to the beat of a different drum, let them. Allow nature to take its course. It is not your job to try and control and change anyone, but it is your job to use the experience as a guide to making better choices for yourself.

Act as a guide to others and lead by example. Those who are ready and on your same page will follow – those are the kinds of people you want to fill your life with.

Use the differences you share with others as an opportunity to pay close attention to your

Self so you can make better choices when it comes to the kind of people you surround yourself with. Deliberately choose to be around people who bring out the best in you – people who are a close match to your nature.

And remember: the nature of life in this time-space dimension that we live in is that there will always be a lag time between your new-found way of living, and the way you were living before.

Realize that when you’re correcting the errors of the past, you may feel some form of negative emotion from that past overlapping into your present state. It is normal.

Realize that this “lag time” is just another thing of nature and will take its course as things begin to shift for you. So don’t give up if things don’t go your way immediately. Just know that they will eventually go your way if you stay true to the plan long enough. And how can you know this for sure? Well...

...you would be glad to know that as nature would have it, it is “Law” that what goes up will come down eventually – just as surely as no matter how challenging a moment can be, it, too, will have to pass eventually. How quickly it passes will be up to you: it will depend on your willingness to understand and accept the nature of life and go with its flow until you know.